“Unfriendly” substitutes for the full range of sad and angry emotions possible. Boorstein simplifies her mental check-in with curiosity when she notices herself shifting away from friendliness. Sometimes our instincts are accurate, and we are threatened. Other times, no threat exists.
I find myself feeling unfriendly after repeated requests to finish a meal, get dressed, get out the door…Don’t these children know what’s good for them? My job as a good mother raising responsible people feels threatened. Loose Legos on the floor? Mega threat or so it would seem from my mounting fury.
The mere act of asking myself, “Why am I feeling unfriendly?” offers the pause to collect myself, my thoughts, my words. Thank you, Sylvia, for the guidance from “It’s Easier Than You Think: The Buddhist Way to Happiness.”